Why do critics feel they need to give you their two cents worth when they meet you in public when you have a lot of children? If you haven’t noticed already, this is a vent post. Consider yourself warned…
A number of years ago I was shopping in Costco with my husband and children. I think we only had 8 of our children at the time although I’m not positive on that. We used to split up when we’d go shopping just to make it easier to get the cart around the store. Ed would take a bunch of the kids throughout the store to look around while I’d take a bunch with me and do the shopping.
This particular shopping day I had four of the girls while my husband had two of the girls and our two sons. I was getting distracted in the book section (pretty typical of me, really) when an older man approached me with his wife. He complimented me on my daughters and proceeded to tell me how he also had four daughters.
I smiled happily as people usually just stare and look away when they see a lot of children. I thanked him and proceeded to tell him that I had two more daughters and two sons. Immediately things went downhill.
His whole demeanor changed.
He looked disgusted when he learned I had more than the four. “I feel sorry for your kids,” he said.
I kid you not.
I stood there unsure how to respond as things definitely took a sharp turn for the worst. His wife looked uncomfortable while he looked me square in the face. I didn’t know how to react. I think I just smiled at him and said for him to have a nice day as I left with my head swimming in thoughts. I was so flustered that I just wanted to get away.
Looking back had he said this to me now, I would have definitely reacted a bit differently. I’ll be honest with you and tell you that I’m not quite sure if my reaction would be viewed as Christian or not. “Turn the other cheek” is how most Christian’s would tell you to react.
However, being a ‘seasoned mother’, one getting tired of dealing with the difficult people in society, I think I would have looked him square in the face and told him that I felt sorry for his daughters.
What did I learn from all this?
This man shocked me. He made me realize that there are nasty people out there. I can’t change them by myself. But, I can pray for them.
To be honest, I feel sorry for them, and particularly for that man. He is truly missing out not knowing the beauty of his children and how good God is for giving them to him.
It has taken me a few years of deliberating to come to this conclusion, but I’m going to handle things a bit differently from now on.
I’m going to smile, square off to the person, and stop biting my tongue. I’m just going to tell them how much I love my children, how much of a blessing they are to me and my husband, and how my children will be there to save society from going down the road it’s heading.
My husband and I are producing hard workers that are independent thinkers, ones that don’t take the media at face value, and who don’t want a government hand out. Our children are smart and can handle anything life throws at them, including grumpy old shoppers.
To the grumpy old man…
If you’re reading this I’d just like to thank you. You’ve helped me put on my big girl pants. I also pray that God blesses you and shows you the value of your children and grandchildren.
Okay. Rant over.
Thank you for reading. 😉